Feng Shui can help one in the area of finding love and partnership. What it can do is create loving energies around you for other to find you appealing. What it can't do is magically help you improve your relationship skills. You must work on that. It cannot turn a frog into a prince. You must be selective. And it cannot make you love someone you don't. You must not lie to yourself. Finally it cannot change a person's bad habit. You must accept that.

Some women may wonder why Feng Shui got the man but could not keep the man. Again, energy is one thing, thought and pre programmed habits are another. I met a beautiful lady once who had just broke up with her man. She read pages of Feng Shui ways to enhance her love life. She met and dated many men afterwards. Most of the men became clingy and too anxious to be with her, wanting to cut into her work time. She soon became fed up and asked herself why she couldn't find the right guy. Her habit was that she threw her self into work and neglected the need to be dependent on another for love and connection. And after the break up, she may have programmed her heart to shut down to ease the pain of the break up, so she could not really feel love or feel like she was ready for love. Sometimes we forget to turn the heart back on and be vulnerable again. But again Feng Shui did not fail, it was her own awareness. Men were indeed attracted to her but the reason why she was not attracted to them was because she was not ready. Her heart knew it but the brain wanted to fill in the missing space.

In another example, these two couples loved each other dearly. The woman's home had excellent love Feng Shui. The man's home had somewhat bad Feng Shui. He was staying in his death sector, but it had flying stars that were lucky in love. It was the reason they fell in love so easily and deeply, but it was also the reason why they broke up many times in between. They could not maintain a healthy relationship for long because the man, due to the death sector, made careless decisions and foolish assumptions and allowed external influences to dictate his life. The death sector or direction, will make your will weaker and thoughts cloudier than if it were in another sector. Building walls to hide in is not the same as having a strong will to face the challenge. The death sector will lead a person to chose painful endings and follow unclear paths. Due to the lucky flying stars, the man was indeed attractive to the opposite sex, but still failed more often than not in the attempts of finding true happiness. So every time he met someone new he would be blissful but end up making moves that were costly to his happiness. Thus leading him to give up, only to find he was in a deeper state of anguish than relief.

What the woman could have done was offered him to stay with her and she would have saved him from the bad energy around him, but again it will take about 3 months to clear and absorb the new energy. But perhaps it had become so bad she too lost hope in him. Nevertheless they will both have new opportunities. The one with better feng shui will find better positive opportunities than the other.

What does it take to have good love Feng Shui? Here are some key points:

Flying stars in your natal or yearly chart with the numbers 1 and 4 are best.
Flying stars with numbers 2, 5 or 7 are bad
Bed should be big enough for 2 people.
Both sides should be equal in space.
The bed should not be too big for the room.
Doors and windows preferably should be facing good direction (especially the longevity direction).
Sleeping with the head towards good direction (especially the longevity direction).
Use symbols of mandarin ducks or phoenix and dragons.
Women should decorate with more masculine objects or colors.
Men should decorate with more feminine objects or colors.
Stay away from death sectors & directions (bedrooms and doors mostly)
No fish or water in a bedroom.
Avoid homes with bathrooms and kitchens in the southwest.
Use love stones.

Finally when you find the one, be ready to improve relationship skills such as:

Be attentive and a good listener
1. When a person tells you a story just listen.
2. Avoid the need to accuse, interrogate, belittle or assume the worse.
3. Avoid giving unsolicited advice or reason for their failure
4. If someone gives you unsolicited advice just smile, agree, remove the ego and assume they care rather than trying to attack your weakness.
Be a good acknowleger
1. Repeat what they just said in their word. (If the speaker constantly changes his or her mind as what they mean, save the conversation for another day.)
2. Ask them what they mean before assuming what they mean. (If the speaker makes you feel bad for asking they may just be the frustrated type who could probably make the lead on the pencil feel stupid for breaking.)
3. Avoid finishing people's sentences.
4. Women like to share feelings be it negative or positive. If it's negative agree it was a negative experience, if positive share in the joy. Do not assume they are there to nag or bring you down.
5. Most men like to keep problems to themselves. Don't assume they want to share. When they trust you they will open up.
Be in emotionally in sync
1. When they laugh laugh back.
2. Avoid ruining the mood with countering the emotion.
  1. If people express fear don't laugh.
  2. If they laugh don't cry.
  3. If they cry don't get angry.
  4. If they are angry don't try to agree and have sympathy.
  5. If they worry don't add fear.
3. To control a negative emotion counter the opposite direction .
  1. If they are crying add joy.
  2. If they are angry let them cry.
  3. If they are too sympathetic (worrisome or attached) make them angry.
  4. If they are scared give them sympathy.
  5. If they think something is funny when it is not add some fear into them.
4. Play on the same team rather than picking defense and offense, fight with eachother but not against eachother.
5. Avoid relationship damaging behaviors such as arrogance, jealousy, vindictiveness, holding grudges, passive aggressive behaviors, flaw picking, withholding love and playing control games.
6. Avoid relationship suffocating behaviors such as clinginess, worry, high expectations, need for gratitude and nagging.
7. Remember love is preferred over obsession or hate.
8. Sincerity is preffered over blunt honesty or false sweetness.
9. Surprise you lover with gift, notes and kind gestures and never refuse a gift.
10. Enjoy the stars, mountians, oceans, sunsets and every view nature has created for the two of you. It's good feng shui.

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